So you're a newbie...
Well first of all welcome! We hope that exploring this lifestyle works out well for you. Our best advice talk ALOT, and don't rush anything!
Here are some of the basics:
What's a Barmeet?
A Barmeet is an off premise party, which means that all that happens is a lot of flirting and meeting people at a public place -like a bar,lol. There is no sex or nudity ect. It's very similar to when you were single and went out clubbing trying to get laid but now its a team sport.
Who attends?
Believe it or not swingers are not 'SEXBOTS' they are the same people you see in the grocery store with real lives and jobs, etc. just like you. It is about 98% couples, because we limit the number of single males and the holy grails( single women) are few & far between. There is no accurate statistical data on who the average swinger is so this is just a guess based about our observations. Most couples ages range from their mid twenties to mid forties. The majority are married with a kid or two. They generally look younger then they are because hey they are trying to get some,lol. Most of all they are friendly, and welcoming , and patient with newbies because we've all 'been there' and remember how nerve racking it can be.
What do I wear?
Most women dress sexy - what we mean by this is something that makes them feel attractive. They want to turn a few heads and show off a bit of their best assets. In general they wear clothing that they could go out in public in but just sexy enough that if their friends or family saw them would think: doesn't she know she's married?
Guys are usually in what we call the guy uniform- jeans or casual pants with a collared button down shirt and nice shoes. Suits & ties are over the top; hats and sweat shirts are too casual .
Do I have to have sex?
No. The barmeet is to meet people, some do end up 'pairing off' and leaving to go get lucky. And most likely you will meet people that want to have sex with you. You may or may not get asked. You may get invited to an 'after' party at someone's house or a hotel, again this doesn't mean you have to have sex or even kiss anyone. In this lifestyle no always means no and you can always say it. Just be honest about what you want and don't want and don't be afraid to ask questions.
Do I get to have sex?
Yes and no. You may or may not be propositioned. It wont always be a simple 'wanna f*%k?' It will usually be more subdued then that. More like a 'Wanna go spend more time with us?' Or the guy will pull the other guy aside and say something to the effect of ' My wife is really interested in ...are you guys interested?..' you can always say yes or no its up to you. ( good advise here" ALWAYS talk about it with your better half before going anywhere or agreeing to anything - DONT try SURPRISE them it never works out well!) If no one approaches you, you can always ask too lol.
If you have any other question please don't hesitate to ask us.
